Let’s talk weddings! Not like marriage or relationships – just the wedding itself. As you know I got
engaged in December of 2015. After getting engaged we basically refused to plan anything for a few months, we just wanted to enjoy being engaged. Side note: I highly recommend being engaged for a year and a half or more. If I could go back we would have been engaged for 3+ years and loved every minute of it. There’s no other time in your life you get to say, “he’s my fiancé” or “we are engaged.” It’s such a special time that we take for granted and don’t get to truly enjoy without being stressed about planning a wedding.
We could only hold off on not planning for a little while before every single person we know was asking “where’s the wedding going to be” or “what’s your wedding date”, so we caved and started to plan. We checked all the easy stuff off the list, the date, the venue, the photographer, the flowers, the invitations. All that stuff was easy for me to decide on because I have such a specific taste. I knew immediately whether I was going to click with a vendor and whether they understood my vision or not. Once we decided on our vendors it was smooth sailing for a few months…..
Fast forward to 4 months before the wedding (wedding date being July 2nd ). By this point, I handed full control over to my little groomzilla. He is very Type A, whereas I am not. I can procrastinate until the last second and be ok with it. Sean likes to say that my motto for the wedding (and maybe life?) is “it’s fine” or “I don’t really care”. Which I continue to laugh at – which might not be a good thing? The people closest to me will ask if this or that is done and I just say, “Sean’s handling it or Sean picked it out, so I have no idea” and the look on their faces is priceless.
I was not your typical bride. I only truly wanted control over a few things: my dress, the flowers, and the music. I wasn’t one of those little girls who planned her wedding at the age of 4, I didn’t have a wedding-themed Pinterest board (not even a “secret” one!), I didn’t have an idea in my head of what my dress would look like. I wasn’t against a wedding, I just wasn’t someone who HAD to have one. The only time I ever envisioned a wedding was when I met Sean. And the only thing I thought about was him and I and our immediate families – and most likely on a beach somewhere.
My advice to future brides:
- Start planning the wedding when YOU want to (be engaged for 3 years if that’s what
makes you happy) - Voice your opinion on the things that truly matter to you – let the other things go. I like to say,
“choose your battles.” I didn’t spend time arguing about napkins or where the dessert table
would go.
What was your wedding like? Are you currently planning one? Leave me a comment!